I've heard from various Sulvan friends that they'd consider having more kids, but their husbands are resistant. When I asked why, a popular rationale was that he doesn't want her to have to go through all that again. Wow, what a great guy! He loves his wife so much that even though she's theoretically up for it, he can't bring himself to subject her to more inconvenience and pain, sleepless nights and chaotic days. I'm not really being sarcastic here. Every wife wants to be cherished and protected and the object of her husband's adoration, which is exactly what this scenario indicates. So everybody wins. Mom is adored, Dad's sensitivity earns him all kinds of admiration, and nobody has to get up in the middle of the night.
But wait! My husband isn't a jerk, yet he somehow musters the strength to put me through the baby wringer on a regular basis! What gives? I decided to ask some hard questions.
He laughed. "They're just afraid she'll get fat if she keeps having kids." Really? That's it? "Yes."
I don't know, it seems to me there could be other motivations. But he was pretty insistent on the point.