27 August 2008

Marriage, Recommended

My favorite pastor is drafting a newsletter article to the effect of "five books that can save a struggling marriage or strengthen a strong one."

In no particular order:

I'm rather curious as to whether anyone has any other nominations.


Rebekah said...

I reread Dr Laura's The Proper Care and Feeding Of Husbands every year or so to help keep myself on track, or at least present the appearance of doing so. Another one for the ladies is Shaunti Feldman's For Women Only. She's also got one for dudes which I haven't read, not being one.

William Weedon said...

Wangerin's *As for Me and My House* - gospel soaked marriage enrichment.

Reb. Mary said...

Rebekah: I keep meaning to get to those--thx for the reminder! Onto the wish list they go!

WW: Wangerin=Awesome! That one's a must-read for pastors/wives in particular.

Glenda said...

Okay, one that my husband has (and I don't remember where or who recommended it to him) is "Divorce Busting" by Michele Weiner-Davis. He brought it home when he first go it and I read it and really liked it and learned quite a bit from it.

Ms. Davis, a marriage therapist, tells about her career as a counselor and how early in her career most ended up divorcing. I don't recall now how she started switching, but now her practice is all sorts of ways to work on saving your marriage. Examples of couples she has counciled (of course names changed) are throughout the book. Her suggestions of doing things you are in control of (changing your own attitude, etc.), and quantifying what it means to you to have a "happy marriage." She has them list out what that would look like, and what they would be doing, and then helps them to start practicing that.

She might be a Christian, I really don't know, but her advice is very practical and can help any marriage get better, because it focuses it off oneself and onto others.

Reb. Mary said...

Glenda: if I recall correctly, Weiner-Davis is Jewish. There's actually an updated version of the original "Divorce Busting" out--can't recall if it's got the same title, so maybe that's the one you're referring to (?). Good stuff.

Glenda said...

Reb. Mary,

Could be, I really don't recall, it has been awhile since I read it and it is over in dh's study. I had to call and ask him the title and author. He joked later that he didn't really like that his wife called him to ask about a book on divorce! ;-)

Joy said...

I too have heard wonderful things about Divorce Busting (or Busters?), especially since it addresses what divorce does to children.

I'm also a fan of Peter Kurowski's "The Lifelines of Love". Very Christ-centered and Lutheran. Oh--and "The Five Love Languages" was also helpful for my marraige.