I can never resist the headlines about breastfeeding.
Here's one from Slate about a large study which seems to have corrected for other factors enough to conclusively indicate that breastfeeding has a positive impact on IQ. But what caught my attention was at the very end of the interview, when cute Emily asked the doctor the question that always concludes these reports, effectively: how guilty are you saying women should feel if they don't breastfeed [exclusively/at length/at all]? And the doctor obediently gives the societally prescribed answer: " . . . mothers who are enjoying breastfeeding are probably gonna do in general better, uh, than mothers who are breastfeeding and hating it. I think that, that, it'll be most beneficial for the kids if the experience is a very good one. I think that, that breastfeeding is more than just nutrition." Emily smiles in satisfaction and thanks him.
I remember reading something similar in, I think, What To Expect the First Year. This isn't an exact quote, but it was along the lines of: a bottle offered in love is better than a breast offered in resentment.
I agree with Dr Spiesel that breastfeeding is more than just nutrition (and he also doesn't exactly say that if breastfeeding makes Mom sad she should quit). But nutrition is a somewhat gigantic part of it. Let's play some Mad Libs with my What To Expect reconstruction: A Twinkie offered in love is better than hummus on whole wheat offered in resentment. I guess I'd better apologize to my babies for putting them through my struggles to nurse them when they could have glugged down Good Start with a happy mom . . . or whoever . . . behind the bottle.
I have nothing but deepest sympathy for moms who finally give up after months of pain; I know very well what drives them to it. But my fangs come out whenever the profundity of that dilemma is denigrated and Baby's needs take a backseat to Mom's hard day.