I have a CSPP friend who, after 10+ years of marriage, has one adopted child and one child known only to God. Weird for us to be friends, right? Nope. It's easier for me to be friends with her than it is for me to be friends with someone who has 33 kids because she "wanted a big family," or will be Done when she gets to a certain number.
I cannot relate to "wanting" having any meaningful bearing on one's life. My friend has what God gives her, and I have what he gives me, and we both deal with it as well as we can. Neither of us feel up to the tasks which have fallen to us. Both of us struggle to be content with the right thing and not want things God hasn't appointed for his people.
What we have in common is not personal effects, but divine cause. That's why we're friends. No "diaper of the day" reports necessary . . . although if the day comes for her, we will both surely rejoice.