14 October 2009

More good times:

standing around awkwardly pregnant while every other mom shares the approach she took to ending her fertility, and that approach's advantages, disadvantages, and hilarious moments.

Despite my fogginess over where I fit into this jocose exchange of shockingly personal information, it was quite informative. There are tricks out there I'd never heard of before our little chat. I also know now why I keep running into people who took an epidural for the first time on their last baby. Silly me.

13 comments:

Reb. Mary said...

I was actually just pondering why it is that the gory details of contraception are considered good small talk and great fodder for "amusing" anecdotes. Declaring an openness to more children, whether verbally or simply by living one's vocation, just doesn't seem to have the same social effect...

Melrose said...

um, why the epidural?

Katy said...

Even more awkward are these chats in mixed company :-O

....with people who aren't even married yet, but already planning/explaining when and how they intend to stop procreating.

Rebekah said...

Someone else with whom I shared this story suggested that the whole thing had been a deliberate intervention staged with subtlety for my benefit.

Melrose, I guess if you're going to have an invasive surgery immediately following childbirth it doesn't make much sense to get the anesthetic after you go to all that trouble of getting the baby out. And all the CSPP girls say, "Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, right."

Marie said...

Melrose... my question, exactly.... OHHHHHHH, right...

The Mama said...

I didn't get the epidural thing, either. Now I just wished I didn't. How sad that this is an amusing and acceptable topic of conversation.

Kelly said...

And might I add, how sad that it was ostensibly staged for your benefit. It irks me beyond all get out when people can't keep their noses out of other people's reproductive business.

Rebekah said...

Kelly, I don't think it was really planned--but I did think I caught a few glimpses of evangelical zeal directed my way since we happened to stumbled upon the topic. Sigh.

lisa said...

I hear you Rebekah on not thinking it was really staged, but wouldn't it be funny to witness a man intervention?
How would that work?

"Hey man, I know you're all manly and all, but I mean - don't you think five is enough? I mean. You know, man - I know Rebekah's looking good and all..."

Oy. Somehow I think the other men are thinking, "Yahoo - he's the Man." (OK - maybe not, "yahoo".... :O) I mean, shoot, if a man's got 5 and he's supporting them all he's The Dude.

Go daddy, go daddy, it's your birthday, it's your birthday!

I'm just saying... :)

Rebekah said...

Lisa, that did happen to my husband once that I know of, and it wasn't far off from your first speculation. :D

Luzia said...

I know of a congregation that finally had 'enough' when their pastor had little blessing #14, and, saying the church could no longer afford him and his family (some of which were already out on their own), asked him to please leave.

Whatever happened to "Children are a blessing, says the Lord."? And that's not just a blessing to the parents, but to the congregation, as well.

The Mama said...

I've heard of a church that did that, too Luzia.
And I also know one who did the opposite- as the family grew and grew (they are approaching a baker's dozen) the church raised the funds to build them a new parsonage!

lisa said...

Now that's beautiful.