20 July 2012

Indelicate but true

Some of the best postpartum advice I've ever gotten was from the nurse who walked in shortly after Baby2 was born and handed me some Colace: "Don't try to be a hero. Just take this for the next few days."

Some of those baby nurses really know what's what. Anyone else want to share any memorable postpartum advice from an experienced baby nurse, midwife, or mentor-mom? (Or from hard-won experience?)

11 comments:

Jerry said...

It was 103 deg the day we brought our first born home. However, that didn't stop my mother-in-law from smothering him with blankets "to keep from getting chilled." Fortunately a nurse asserted herself and had us strip him down to just diaper.

Twelve years and three babies later, the dear wife had her appendix removed 11 days after giving birth. It was 103 deg when it came time to bring her home; I had the newborn with me, wearing just a diaper. The nurse on the surgery ward wanted us to smother the baby in blankets...

Megan said...

The midwife I had in Ft. Wayne was fond of saying "For the first two weeks (postpartum) if it can't out run you, eat it"

Mrs. Reverend Doctor said...

The second after that baby comes out start eating prunes and drinking water...learned the hard way after baby #1. Also, if you've had a natural birth you may feel like superman for about 2 weeks of no sleep and constant nursing around that time something snaps if you don't take care of yourself you will CRASH.

MamaOnABudget said...

(Also indelicate) My midwife required Depends in the homebirth kit. When I asked why, she said that they stay in place better than those one-size mesh panties and submarine-sized pads. She was SO right - I recommend it to all my pregnant friends now, too. In fact, even though the birth ended up taking place in a hospital, I had my husband bring me a couple of the Depends from home for overnight and the trip home. All this being said, I am a heavy bleeder after birth - and for quite awhile. If your bleeding isn't as crazy, maybe the mesh/boats will work out just fine.

Anonymous said...

I am one of those who will refuse any pain medicines/interventions during labor. . . but even before the baby is born, I ask the nurse to have those super-strength ibuprofen ready to help me with those fierce after-birth pains. And the stool softener.

Gauntlets said...

I can't think of a single thing anyone said to me during any of my postpartum times that didn't send me spiraling into vortices of rage. But then, no one has ever handed me any Colace. :D

Rebekah said...

If the baby is sleeping, she's not hungry.

:P

Leah said...

I agree with Mrs. Reverend Doctor. I always start eating fiber pills the day after the baby's born until about two weeks later, or just until things are running properly. :D (Learned that the hard way after baby #2)

Also, just sit and rock and STARE at your baby as often as you can that first week. You'll never get that chance again.

Reb. Mary said...

I <3 collective wisdom :)

Gauntlets, I think Colace could indeed help with that rage :D And really, no one should say anything to a postpartum woman unless they come bearing gifts (Chocolate, casseroles, chocolate, free babysitting for the older sibs, chocolate, granola, chocolate, muffins, chocolate, fiber pills, chocolate, whatever ;) ).

Leah, I stayed the extra night in the hospital this time around, mostly just so I could have that uninterrupted time to rock and stare. Too too true.

Cathy said...

Double amen on the stool softener, and oatmeal cookies with some extra bran thrown in are good. And people bearing gifts are good too. And don't think you'll get your energy up by loading up on caffeine. Postpartum with my ninth baby, I drank so many cups of caffeinated tea all day, that my newborn was fretful, wakeful, and jumpy. It took me a few days to realize the connection.

Leah said...

Do you like chocolate or something? :P

Also , along with what Cathy said, things you eat can definitely affect your baby. On my sixth baby, I decided I was going to be all healthy and eat a "throw in every veggie you can" salad each day for lunch. My little baby seemed to be so fussy and would pull up her legs all the time because of stomach ache and gas, until my mother told me that perhaps the daily cabbage and red peppers were affecting her. Duh. I cut them out of my salads and within days her stomach problems subsided.

So why did it take me six babies to learn this? Uh, no comment...
(But thanks mom.)